G-Spot Advice, part II: The Epic Squirt!!

Hello guys and gals,

Now it’s time for the second installment on G-spot orgasms and the hotly sought after squirt! The Kama Sutra references squirting regularly and it is a prominent feature in tantric sex. Some have said it’s the ‘holy grail’ of sex.

(If any of you missed it, here’s Part I: the introduction to the g-spot and how to find it.)

Depending on the sex position, I’ve squirted just enough for my lover to feel a liquid rush around his penis, up to the point of soaking his lap and leaving a fist sized spot on the bed.

The first time I realized ‘my dam had burst’, I was very confused, almost as much as my sex partner. Neither of us had ever experienced anything like it. Most people have heard of the squirting phenomena, or at least seen a video of it, but not everybody has had the pleasure of experiencing it first hand. Those who are unfamiliar may be put off by the idea of what and where the liquid originates. If a woman doesn’t have testicles, where does it cum from? (hehe)

Scientists have discovered a gland that resides in a woman’s tunnel of love that helps keep it juicy. This is called the Skene’s gland, located very close to the G-spot. With stimulation, together they will produce a squirt. The Skene’s gland is often compared to the male prostate. The liquid that is secreted has been proven to be nothing like urine, but rather a substance very similar to semen, minus the sperm of course. (For more information on the science behind it, this source is fantastic.)

With titillating attention, the Skene’s gland and G-spot will grow. They grow because they are filling up with liquid. Skeptics say it’s wee, but after the fluid was tested, no ammonia or urinary chemicals were found. It seems to me that the Skene’s gland may act similarly to the glands that produce our tears. They both aren’t constantly filled with liquid, but with proper stimuation, they produce and release fluids as a way to soothe the body and mind.

With all of this in mind, remember that every person is different. Some women have no desire to experience squirting. Ladies can still enjoy sex without ejaculating or squirting. The intimacy can be just as fulfilling and erotic.

My favorite sex position for a good squirt would have to be ‘the lusty lap dance’. This puts me on top, riding my sitting man, aligning my breasts with his mouth. Instead of just going up and down, try leaning back slightly, while swaying back and forth. This will help with G-spot stimulation. Other great positions for this include spooning, reverse cowgirl, and the slow climb (like missionary, but the penetrated bottom puts their legs over the top’s shoulders). The orgasm from squirting is the deepest and most mind blowing I’ve ever had. It rolls over you like high tide, taking you to an entirely different place. The most satisfying aspect is ultimately letting everything go and feeling pleasure to the fullest. The actual act of squirting is unlike any other sensation. You don’t feel the liquid rush out, but rather you feel your vagina grasping for dear life as it pulses around your lover. Toys designed for G-spot pleasure are great to help you squirt. The Gigi2 by Lelo has been very effective for me.

After having been ejaculated on too many times to count, now it’s our turn ladies. Go out there and share the love!


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G-Spot Advice

Dear Darla,

I have a question – I am not sure of the exact location (or if there is an exact location) for the Gspot – it seems mysterious to me. I have not read extensively about it, but what i have read seems like too much fiction and not enough fact.  Does the Gspot really exist? If so, HOW DO I FIND IT?!?!!?

 Thanks in Advance,

Vinicius Vieira


Dear Vinicius,

That is a great question, and I can start by saying that YES, THE G-SPOT DOES EXIST!!!

The mysterious g-spot, or Grafenberg spot, is located along the front vaginal wall by the pelvic bone behind the clit, approximately 2-3 inches deep. This is also where you will find the urethral sponge, which encompasses sensitive nerve endings and is tied to female ejaculation. Its existence and function have been a hot topic for debate, and I’ve found that the majority of people loudly debating the subject were men. No offense to them, but I’m sure I know my vagina better than they do, and guess what.. It’s real!! Don’t take my word for it- perhaps you can find one for yourself.

The best way to find it is by slowly and sensually exploring your lover’s body until you find that little magically moist walnut of joy. It’s important to go slowly in the beginning. This will help direct focus on the physical touches and feelings of pleasure, while remaining relaxed. Any kind of anxiety that could cause one to hold back will disrupt the flow and hinder reaching the highest heights of ecstasy. Foreplay is crucial for most women in order to get really hot and bothered. Once aroused, insert your index and middle finger into your partner’s vagina and curl your fingers toward you in a come hither motion. If flying solo, curl your fingers inward and upward. If you like toys, these are spectacular for this (Njoy Fun WandJe Joue G-Ki, & Lelo Mona).

The g-spot starts out fairly flat, but with stimulation and arousal, it will begin to balloon outward. You can physically feel it getting larger. An orgasm from g-spot stimulation is totally different than any other. Clitoral orgasms feel like a higher frequency and tend to be intense and hard hitting all at once. The g-spot orgasm is much deeper and comes in rolling waves. I am always surprised by how many times I can climax, and with my good friend Grafenberg, each one is more intense than the one before. Most famously, the g-spot is your key to the epic and hotly sought after squirt!

Those who choose to explore the g-spot’s limitations have found that when it’s pet, you’ll feel like you may need to pee. This is the first deterrent to those who may experience stimulation there. This feeling can be a bit alarming at first, but you have to trust that your urethral sponge is doing its job and inflating to obstruct your urethral tube. Once you ride out this feeling, you will reach beautiful breathtaking bliss.

Stay tuned in for next time, when I elaborate more on the climactic finish! (Here’s Part II)



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Mermaids, Unicorns, & Porn Stars oh MY!

Mermaids, Unicorns, & Porn Stars oh MY!

The SHAG gang is hosting a night of Film Screening, Book Signing, and Q&A

Join us Friday April 11th from 7-9 pm for a night that is filled with mythological magical creatures and fierce feminists eroticizing their favorite glitter covered unicorns and mermaids!
$20 / single
$30 / couple or friends
VIP Tickets: includes an autographed, personalized copy of Madison’s new memoir, Daddy and a photograph with Madison!

located at 108 Roebling St. Brooklyn, NY 11211

Allow me to introduce myself;

Hello All,

Ever wonder who’s behind all this delectable naughtiness?

Well wonder no longer; you can call me Darla. I work at the Shag shop in Williamsburg, Brooklyn. I’m the current designer for our blog, flyers, and will also be doing the toy reviews. My predecessor, Dixon Malone, left some mighty sexy shoes to fill, and now I have the honors. I will do all I can to follow in her footsteps and keep you informed, entertained, and wanting more.

If you have inquiries or are seeking some advice, please email me at dear.darla.day@gmail.com. If something is on your mind, chances are it’s on many others’ as well. All interactions will be kept strictly anonymous (unless requested otherwise). I strongly encourage you to ask questions and make comments. Everyone has an opinion, and I’d love to hear yours.

With love,


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Darla Reviews: Divine Oral Pleasure Gloss

shunga lip gloss

What it is:

Ever feel your mouth watering with anticipation? I sure did when I saw Shunga created a lip-gloss that made giving oral an explosive and tasty treat. Divine Oral Pleasure Gloss is both a cosmetic and a sexual experience enhancer. It is to be applied liberally, and then ideally removed by long kisses on your lover’s sensually sensitive areas. I’m a sucker for makeup, so having a gloss that my boyfriend would get excited about too was a naughty dream come true. Knowing it’s scandalous nature, it can be a thrill applying it in public, especially when your lover is with you- both of you knowing exactly what’s coming next.

The box is very sleek and features an Asian inspired décor, while the bottle is very clean, simple, and discreet. The actual gloss itself is clear and has a nice satiny feel. It even tastes delicious!

What it does:

If you’ve ever used lip-plumping gloss, you’ll probably find the first application on your pouty smile to feel very similar. After a few seconds, the tingling begins! It’s a sort of carbonated kick, instead of the usual burning that comes with any recipe that’s said to increase sensitivity. For peak performance, you put it on generously and then go down on your lucky guy or gal. Kiss your lover hard and let their lips venture to all of your sweet spots. This gloss had my clit singing and made me feel even the smallest breathe. Strawberries and champagne will dance across your palette when your tongue ventures to those loved areas, making oral a real treat for both men and women. This gloss also creates a sort of warming and cooling effect in time and with prolonged stimulation. The ebb and flow will help push you to your edge, before hurling you over it into a sea of bliss. It goes perfectly with nipple play too!

The Verdict:

I, Darla, give this gloss my seal of approval and two thumbs way up! The sensations it creates are not overly extreme, but leaves your intimate areas buzzing and craving more. You’ll also feel sexy doing it!

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Dixon Reviews: The njoy Eleven

njoy eleven

What it is:

The njoy Eleven is a sex toy of mythic proportions (by that I mean 11 inches). I used to sit at SHAG, looking at it wistfully, wondering if I would ever get to experience its 100% stainless steel curves and girth. Well…my lucky day came a few weeks ago.

“Guess what I got!”, my friend mentioned to me as we were getting ready for a party of a sexual nature. “The Eleven!”.

My eyes got big and I practically jumped up and down. Once we got to the party I didn’t even want to do the normal awkward cocktail party portion of the evening and wanted to get straight to the sexy fun.

What it does:

We tried starting with the big side, but it was too big to just go in without a little warm up. So we started with the smaller end. The smaller end is 1.75″ in girth and curved, and was great for g-spot stimulation. Surprisingly it was not that cold, and warmed up to my body temperature very quickly.

After a few minutes, I was ready for the big stuff. The larger end is 2″ in girth. At first, I was not sure it would go but sure enough it did. Each side is shaped like the head of a penis, so once the “head” was in, it felt really great. I think we spent about 30 minutes playing with it. The full sensation was wonderful. At one point I reached down and realized the thing was pretty much all the way inside me! Oh, the magical and mystical elastic properties of the vagina!

The Verdict:

Anyways. This toy was A LOT of fun. I like it because it is stainless steel, which means it can be completely sanitized. You can boil it, throw it in the dishwasher etc. You can also use any type of lube with this (water based, silicone based, or any combination of the two). It’s perfect for some sensation play, since you can warm it up (not too much now!!) or put it in the freezer in case you or your partner need to cool down. In addition, stainless steel is an earth friendly material and can be recycled when you decide (though I don’t know why you would) to get rid of your njoy Eleven. Lastly, the Eleven is great for solo and partner play. I think this toy would be great for couples because you can really explore someone’s limits and boundaries with the Eleven, which is always strengthening to any relationship.

Disclaimer: The size is not so huge that it’s impossible for the average person to take, but this is not for the faint of heart or beginners.

Want to give the njoy Eleven a try? (Click the link to find it on our site.)

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