Sir Richard’s has won my heart.

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As a very sexual human being, I am not proud to admit that I don’t use condoms as often as I should. I am in a committed long term relationship so STD’s aren’t necessarily a concern for me, but I’m not trying to be a baby mama just yet. For me, condoms always took the fun out of getting freaky. I pretty much boycotted them altogether for over a year. When these beauties showed up at the shop though, I was very intrigued. The graphic design is what drew me in. It’s crisp and classy appearance has a warmth to it. I tried the pleasure dots first and fell in love! It was easily the best wrapped up experience I’ve ever had. I was originally discouraged by the unnatural barrier that some condoms can add, but Sir Richard’s Pleasure Dots grip in all the right places. The different textures add variety and extra stimulation that are perfect for tantric play too ♥

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Darla Reviews: Ora by Lelo

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What it is:

The new Ora, by Lelo, is one of the prettiest and most surprising toys I’ve had the joy of playing with. It is an external stimulator that has a knob that either quickly flicks or rotates in long sensual strokes, creating a sensation similar to oral sex. The appearance of it is as sexy as it will make you, featuring some embellishing metal around the center, and soft high-grade silicone around the exterior. This toy has 10 different modes, on top of a variety of intensities for each. Lelo also boasts that this toy has a new ‘intense’ mode that is said to give you 30% more power instantly.

What it does:

The Ora looks like a new kind of Bluetooth speaker, so they get an A+ for discretion. Lelo also stepped up their game with the new intense setting. Folks, I’m happy to announce it is all that, AND a bag of chips! The vibration is more stimulating and deeply penetrating, without changing the frequency much. The cycling knob that is below a blanket of silicone is the perfect size, very much like the tip of a tongue. It flicks either in a quick back and forth half circle, or it can make a full revolution with varying pressures. This is how it achieves that unpredictable and intimate feeling you get from cunnilingus. With all these different options, it’s not as much work as it sounds. Think of it like this; just lay back, flip through the channels, and be pleasantly surprised by each.

The Verdict:

For the most part, Ora really delivered. The orbiting combined with vibration was fabulous. It gave the sensation that I was not in control, which is amazing given I’m holding onto the little sucker. Although the rotation is superb, the knob catches on the silicone when pressure is applied. This causes a hiccup in the whole process. One of the best parts about oral is having all your lovely creases probed, and this toy doesn’t quite take a pounding like I wish it would. However, much like the real thing, this is the perfect way to warm up. If you like a soft sensual touch, this is the toy for you. (I paired this with the GiGi2 by Lelo. It’s safe to say I felt like the conductor of a symphony afterward.) It truly left me dripping and ravenous.

Darla Day

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G-Spot Advice, part II: The Epic Squirt!!

Hello guys and gals,

Now it’s time for the second installment on G-spot orgasms and the hotly sought after squirt! The Kama Sutra references squirting regularly and it is a prominent feature in tantric sex. Some have said it’s the ‘holy grail’ of sex.

(If any of you missed it, here’s Part I: the introduction to the g-spot and how to find it.)

Depending on the sex position, I’ve squirted just enough for my lover to feel a liquid rush around his penis, up to the point of soaking his lap and leaving a fist sized spot on the bed.

The first time I realized ‘my dam had burst’, I was very confused, almost as much as my sex partner. Neither of us had ever experienced anything like it. Most people have heard of the squirting phenomena, or at least seen a video of it, but not everybody has had the pleasure of experiencing it first hand. Those who are unfamiliar may be put off by the idea of what and where the liquid originates. If a woman doesn’t have testicles, where does it cum from? (hehe)

Scientists have discovered a gland that resides in a woman’s tunnel of love that helps keep it juicy. This is called the Skene’s gland, located very close to the G-spot. With stimulation, together they will produce a squirt. The Skene’s gland is often compared to the male prostate. The liquid that is secreted has been proven to be nothing like urine, but rather a substance very similar to semen, minus the sperm of course. (For more information on the science behind it, this source is fantastic.)

With titillating attention, the Skene’s gland and G-spot will grow. They grow because they are filling up with liquid. Skeptics say it’s wee, but after the fluid was tested, no ammonia or urinary chemicals were found. It seems to me that the Skene’s gland may act similarly to the glands that produce our tears. They both aren’t constantly filled with liquid, but with proper stimuation, they produce and release fluids as a way to soothe the body and mind.

With all of this in mind, remember that every person is different. Some women have no desire to experience squirting. Ladies can still enjoy sex without ejaculating or squirting. The intimacy can be just as fulfilling and erotic.

My favorite sex position for a good squirt would have to be ‘the lusty lap dance’. This puts me on top, riding my sitting man, aligning my breasts with his mouth. Instead of just going up and down, try leaning back slightly, while swaying back and forth. This will help with G-spot stimulation. Other great positions for this include spooning, reverse cowgirl, and the slow climb (like missionary, but the penetrated bottom puts their legs over the top’s shoulders). The orgasm from squirting is the deepest and most mind blowing I’ve ever had. It rolls over you like high tide, taking you to an entirely different place. The most satisfying aspect is ultimately letting everything go and feeling pleasure to the fullest. The actual act of squirting is unlike any other sensation. You don’t feel the liquid rush out, but rather you feel your vagina grasping for dear life as it pulses around your lover. Toys designed for G-spot pleasure are great to help you squirt. The Gigi2 by Lelo has been very effective for me.

After having been ejaculated on too many times to count, now it’s our turn ladies. Go out there and share the love!

Darla

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G-Spot Advice

Dear Darla,

I have a question – I am not sure of the exact location (or if there is an exact location) for the Gspot – it seems mysterious to me. I have not read extensively about it, but what i have read seems like too much fiction and not enough fact.  Does the Gspot really exist? If so, HOW DO I FIND IT?!?!!?

 Thanks in Advance,

Vinicius Vieira


 

Dear Vinicius,

That is a great question, and I can start by saying that YES, THE G-SPOT DOES EXIST!!!

The mysterious g-spot, or Grafenberg spot, is located along the front vaginal wall by the pelvic bone behind the clit, approximately 2-3 inches deep. This is also where you will find the urethral sponge, which encompasses sensitive nerve endings and is tied to female ejaculation. Its existence and function have been a hot topic for debate, and I’ve found that the majority of people loudly debating the subject were men. No offense to them, but I’m sure I know my vagina better than they do, and guess what.. It’s real!! Don’t take my word for it- perhaps you can find one for yourself.

The best way to find it is by slowly and sensually exploring your lover’s body until you find that little magically moist walnut of joy. It’s important to go slowly in the beginning. This will help direct focus on the physical touches and feelings of pleasure, while remaining relaxed. Any kind of anxiety that could cause one to hold back will disrupt the flow and hinder reaching the highest heights of ecstasy. Foreplay is crucial for most women in order to get really hot and bothered. Once aroused, insert your index and middle finger into your partner’s vagina and curl your fingers toward you in a come hither motion. If flying solo, curl your fingers inward and upward. If you like toys, these are spectacular for this (Njoy Fun WandJe Joue G-Ki, & Lelo Mona).

The g-spot starts out fairly flat, but with stimulation and arousal, it will begin to balloon outward. You can physically feel it getting larger. An orgasm from g-spot stimulation is totally different than any other. Clitoral orgasms feel like a higher frequency and tend to be intense and hard hitting all at once. The g-spot orgasm is much deeper and comes in rolling waves. I am always surprised by how many times I can climax, and with my good friend Grafenberg, each one is more intense than the one before. Most famously, the g-spot is your key to the epic and hotly sought after squirt!

Those who choose to explore the g-spot’s limitations have found that when it’s pet, you’ll feel like you may need to pee. This is the first deterrent to those who may experience stimulation there. This feeling can be a bit alarming at first, but you have to trust that your urethral sponge is doing its job and inflating to obstruct your urethral tube. Once you ride out this feeling, you will reach beautiful breathtaking bliss.

Stay tuned in for next time, when I elaborate more on the climactic finish! (Here’s Part II)

Love,

Darla

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